Happiness comes from suffering.
In the book ‘THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A FUCK’ by author Mark Mention there is a context named Happiness is a Problem. We all wanted to be happy since our childhood as we used to define happiness as it’s so relaxing and as a happy guy we will never get sad again. But happiness never settles and after a few times of relaxing, we are going to suffer again. So, what defines happiness?
We all suffer.
Though happiness is not a part of our biological nature but suffering is always a part of it. We get happy as we achieve it on our own but on the other hand, we never want to achieve suffering. Silly thing, who does? So, it means sufferings always comes from nature. So, you might think if you become a rich man with a good family and with a beautiful and sexy lady that you can fuck every day and a good job can make you happy for the rest of your life. But without emotional thinking and with the rules of nature you never can be happy for your whole life or the rest of your life that remains. Don’t rich people suffer? Yes. they do. The interesting thing is they suffer just because they are Rich. The poor suffer just because they are poor. The guy with a family suffers because he has a family. The guy without a family suffers just because he is alone. So, we all suffer. We have to suffer even after we get rich to poor or poor to rich, or even after we get a job after living unemployed for a couple of years. So, you have to suffer to live.
How much we will suffer?
Suffering is suffering. You can’t say ‘he is sadder than me.’ or anything like that. We cannot count the amount of suffering. So, what the thing is How long do we’ll suffer? So, end of the day it matters how long we’d suffered from our biological nature. Suppose, you got unemployed a few weeks ago and one of your friend too. You both are suffering as you both are broke now. Hypothetically your friend is getting a new job tomorrow and he’s thinking this is the end of his suffering and you’re thinking about how to buy your next meal pack. Though your friend is not happy for the rest of his life but he is getting temporary satisfaction and for sure this happiness will not last forever. So, how did he got suffer first and got temporary happiness? Just think by your own.
Who is creating suffering in your life?
Though I mentioned that suffering is a part of nature but is nature reinforcing you to go suffer? No. This is you, who is creating suffering in your life. Problems are constant in life. Suppose, you’re a weak guy thinking of joining the gym to build a strong muscle so everyone gives a fuck about you. But you creating a lot of new suffering on that point. From tomorrow you have to wake up early to go to the gym on time, buy new gym supplements and take medical elliptical in every thirty minutes. This all things will seem to be a new problem to you. You might argue that it is not a problem. Then go and try it. Everything seems interesting in the beginning. In a few days, if you can’t make your interest in your habit, it will seem like a problem to you every day. Now, think again that you met a new girl on the internet and you just fall in love with her. So, you just called another suffering from nature. You have to buy her new gifts and have to think about everything that she like and you’re always worried about ‘how to make her happy?’ These things are kinds of suffering. So you calling the problem in your life on your own.
How to be Happy in the end?
First of all, I already told you that you can’t be happy for the rest of your life. To understand how to be happy you have to understand what defines happiness and how it comes? Happiness is a biological call from nature that is an emotional state characterized by feelings of joy, satisfaction, contentment, and fulfillment. While happiness has many different definitions, it is often described as involving positive emotions and life satisfaction. This is something everybody wants in their life even the one who is reading and me too. How to gain happiness in life?
Ever noticed you go happy when you have solved any problem in your life. By solving problems in your life you bring happiness to your life. Even if you got any problem in your life by our biological nature you can solve it. Every problem that we get in our life is solvable. The problems that are created by you are also solvable. Now come to the context ‘How much we will suffer?’ and think how your friend got happy for a temporary time? He just solved his problem. He just figured out his problem and thought about how to overcome it. He was broke and he needed money. So he had overcome his problem by getting a new job that will bring money to him. If you think of yourself with an emotional state that you might be a special one or that god created you differently than others, you might be wrong. I’m not telling you to lose your self-confidence. What I’m telling you is to be strong. When you think yourself so special you may go heartbreak at the end for something that you weren’t expecting. No one wants to give a shit about others’ works and everybody want to be special at any point. Especially, when someone wants to prove this to the world for any reason. I told this to remember because this is something that will help you to face suffering at any point. Now just stop thinking out of the box and come to the point again. I hardly believe that if anyone is able to suffer, no one can hurt him with all his power. Sometimes, I noticed some people love to suffer. I don’t think it is a good thing to do. Also, I am not telling you to build a good relationship with suffering but if you’re calling suffering from biological nature or you’re getting it without any reason then you just have to overcome it anyhow. After that, you will go happy a few times and you should follow this process for the rest of your life.
Therefore, all I just wanted to do is make the phrase ‘Suffering’ very simple and easy for you all. I might be wrong at any point but just want that you guys to suffer in your own way. Find the way how you’ll like to suffer in your life. What suffering will make you happy and make you proud in the end? So, you never get depressed about suffering and just get satisfied thinking that ‘Here comes suffering. Surely, happiness is knocking at the door’.
